Comments on: The Nice Guy’s Guide to Authority http://www.remarkable-communication.com/the-nice-guys-guide-to-authority/ Fri, 05 Mar 2010 15:00:20 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: 25 Lessons You Can Learn From Sonia Simone - Blogging Tips From Jade Craven http://www.remarkable-communication.com/the-nice-guys-guide-to-authority/comment-page-1/#comment-2825 25 Lessons You Can Learn From Sonia Simone - Blogging Tips From Jade Craven Sun, 23 Aug 2009 00:21:42 +0000 http://www.remarkable-communication.com/the-nice-guys-guide-to-authority/#comment-2825 [...] discussed this in The Nice Guy’s Guide to Authority True authority springs from true expertise. Become insanely good at what you do. If you’re [...]

[...] discussed this in The Nice Guy’s Guide to Authority True authority springs from true expertise. Become insanely good at what you do. If you’re [...]

]]> By: Jabbermouth » Blog Archive » Be the best in the world http://www.remarkable-communication.com/the-nice-guys-guide-to-authority/comment-page-1/#comment-2460 Jabbermouth » Blog Archive » Be the best in the world Fri, 12 Jun 2009 03:23:37 +0000 http://www.remarkable-communication.com/the-nice-guys-guide-to-authority/#comment-2460 [...] genius online scribe, Sonia Simone describes though, this needn’t be as scary as it first sounds… Does “best in the world” sound [...]

[...] genius online scribe, Sonia Simone describes though, this needn’t be as scary as it first sounds… Does “best in the world” sound [...]

]]> By: Tea Silvestre http://www.remarkable-communication.com/the-nice-guys-guide-to-authority/comment-page-1/#comment-2401 Tea Silvestre Thu, 21 May 2009 16:15:59 +0000 http://www.remarkable-communication.com/the-nice-guys-guide-to-authority/#comment-2401 Excellent advice! I've always considered myself the expert on GOOD. Good Business, Good Marketing, and just plain doing Good everywhere. It's worked extremely well for me! Excellent advice! I’ve always considered myself the expert on GOOD. Good Business, Good Marketing, and just plain doing Good everywhere. It’s worked extremely well for me!

]]> By: David Craft http://www.remarkable-communication.com/the-nice-guys-guide-to-authority/comment-page-1/#comment-2400 David Craft Thu, 21 May 2009 15:40:50 +0000 http://www.remarkable-communication.com/the-nice-guys-guide-to-authority/#comment-2400 I am new here so bear with me as I feel out the landscape. Love the picture. Relaxed, confident and don't mess with my banana... I sense a difference in definition. What is personal authority and what is being an authority? When is being nice a good idea without being a doormat? And Simon Cowell is a both a challenge and an AUTHORITY JERK. It is a challenge to impress him because when you do you KNOW you've ascended in to another world of talent. He is an authority jerk because he knows, is confident in and cares not one whit whether you like him or not. His success doesn't depend on you, yours depends on him and his persona says so. Remember here though being the best will aid in others perceiving your quiet confidence and being recognized as an authority in your field. It will not magically grant you personal authority when dealing with others unless you allow that confidence to permeate throughout your life. Want personal authority? Believe in yourself, be confident you can do whatever you set your mind to and help others to get there as well. Does it matter they can count on you? Does it matter they can believe you? Does it matter they can count on you to tell the truth? Can they depend on you to let them know when they are making a mistake without jumping down their throat? Do you know how to be quiet and listen even when what they are saying leaves you wondering whether to laugh in their face or shake the s**t out of them? Having personal authority means you could do either one but deliberately choose not to. You respect and believe in yourself enough you can freely believe in others. They'll know without having to be told. I am new here so bear with me as I feel out the landscape. Love the picture. Relaxed, confident and don’t mess with my banana…

I sense a difference in definition. What is personal authority and what is being an authority? When is being nice a good idea without being a doormat?

And Simon Cowell is a both a challenge and an AUTHORITY JERK. It is a challenge to impress him because when you do you KNOW you’ve ascended in to another world of talent. He is an authority jerk because he knows, is confident in and cares not one whit whether you like him or not. His success doesn’t depend on you, yours depends on him and his persona says so.

Remember here though being the best will aid in others perceiving your quiet confidence and being recognized as an authority in your field. It will not magically grant you personal authority when dealing with others unless you allow that confidence to permeate throughout your life.

Want personal authority? Believe in yourself, be confident you can do whatever you set your mind to and help others to get there as well. Does it matter they can count on you? Does it matter they can believe you? Does it matter they can count on you to tell the truth? Can they depend on you to let them know when they are making a mistake without jumping down their throat? Do you know how to be quiet and listen even when what they are saying leaves you wondering whether to laugh in their face or shake the s**t out of them?

Having personal authority means you could do either one but deliberately choose not to. You respect and believe in yourself enough you can freely believe in others. They’ll know without having to be told.

]]> By: Steve Nickse http://www.remarkable-communication.com/the-nice-guys-guide-to-authority/comment-page-1/#comment-1682 Steve Nickse Tue, 06 Jan 2009 02:00:29 +0000 http://www.remarkable-communication.com/the-nice-guys-guide-to-authority/#comment-1682 Somebody please explain why America loves Simon Cowell, from American Idol. Mean as a junk yard dog and immensely popular for the same reason. I'm listening. <abbr><em>Steve Nickses last blog post..<a href="http://blog.closet-solutions.com/blog/closet-solutions-of-boston/0/0/your-closet--is-it--an-untapped-gold-mine" rel="nofollow">Your Closet- Is it an Untapped Gold Mine?</a></abbr></em> Somebody please explain why America loves Simon Cowell, from American Idol. Mean as a junk yard dog and immensely popular for the same reason. I’m listening.

Steve Nickses last blog post..Your Closet- Is it an Untapped Gold Mine?

]]> By: Daniel Edlen http://www.remarkable-communication.com/the-nice-guys-guide-to-authority/comment-page-1/#comment-1146 Daniel Edlen Fri, 24 Oct 2008 22:52:02 +0000 http://www.remarkable-communication.com/the-nice-guys-guide-to-authority/#comment-1146 I'm the best in the world at handpainting portraits with acrylic on vinyl records. There I said it. Online. I have to feel it, to believe it, in order to have the self-confidence to promote it. And it's true to boot. In promoting it, though, I'm probably rambling too much, and about me. I know people like to know about the artist, but I know I ramble about myself. I'm not good historically at self-editting especially about myself. See? I need to think that, what you said. Along with "don't take things personally", "is this about me" is brilliant. Thank you. Peace. I LOVE that photo. Just a stunning creation of Life. Daniel Edlens last blog post..<a href="http://vinylart.blogspot.com/2008/10/va-now-i-can-merchandise-vinyl-art.html" rel="nofollow">VA™ - Now I Can Merchandise Vinyl Art!</a> I’m the best in the world at handpainting portraits with acrylic on vinyl records.

There I said it. Online. I have to feel it, to believe it, in order to have the self-confidence to promote it. And it’s true to boot.

In promoting it, though, I’m probably rambling too much, and about me. I know people like to know about the artist, but I know I ramble about myself. I’m not good historically at self-editting especially about myself. See?

I need to think that, what you said. Along with “don’t take things personally”, “is this about me” is brilliant.

Thank you. Peace.

I LOVE that photo. Just a stunning creation of Life.

Daniel Edlens last blog post..VA™ – Now I Can Merchandise Vinyl Art!

]]> By: 9 Little Known Traits of Successful Bloggers | idealfusion.com http://www.remarkable-communication.com/the-nice-guys-guide-to-authority/comment-page-1/#comment-1082 9 Little Known Traits of Successful Bloggers | idealfusion.com Thu, 16 Oct 2008 07:35:33 +0000 http://www.remarkable-communication.com/the-nice-guys-guide-to-authority/#comment-1082 [...] “rules” of blogging. Produce consistently high-quality content, position yourself as an authority, cultivate relationships with your readers and other [...]

[...] “rules” of blogging. Produce consistently high-quality content, position yourself as an authority, cultivate relationships with your readers and other [...]

]]> By: 9 Little Known Traits of Successful Bloggers | Copyblogger http://www.remarkable-communication.com/the-nice-guys-guide-to-authority/comment-page-1/#comment-1037 9 Little Known Traits of Successful Bloggers | Copyblogger Fri, 10 Oct 2008 14:49:43 +0000 http://www.remarkable-communication.com/the-nice-guys-guide-to-authority/#comment-1037 [...] “rules” of blogging. Produce consistently high-quality content, position yourself as an authority, cultivate relationships with your readers and other [...]

[...] “rules” of blogging. Produce consistently high-quality content, position yourself as an authority, cultivate relationships with your readers and other [...]

]]> By: J.D. Meier http://www.remarkable-communication.com/the-nice-guys-guide-to-authority/comment-page-1/#comment-896 J.D. Meier Fri, 19 Sep 2008 03:51:11 +0000 http://www.remarkable-communication.com/the-nice-guys-guide-to-authority/#comment-896 That's the beauty of today's authority model. The network says who the authority is. The network favors the nice guys. Plus, it's a small world. Brutally small. J.D. Meiers last blog post..<a href="http://sourcesofinsight.com/2008/09/17/use-stress-to-be-your-best/" rel="nofollow">Use Stress to Be Your Best</a> That’s the beauty of today’s authority model. The network says who the authority is. The network favors the nice guys.

Plus, it’s a small world. Brutally small.

J.D. Meiers last blog post..Use Stress to Be Your Best

]]> By: Janice Chan http://www.remarkable-communication.com/the-nice-guys-guide-to-authority/comment-page-1/#comment-210 Janice Chan Wed, 04 Jun 2008 06:38:20 +0000 http://www.remarkable-communication.com/the-nice-guys-guide-to-authority/#comment-210 <p>@Nadine, Sonia - I think this stems from the inherent vagueness of the word "nice." Does nice mean being polite? Considerate? Courteous? Does it mean being helpful? I don't think the "nice guy" Sonia is talking about here is the person who's nice to your face and then goes talk smack about you with their buddies at the bar. People may think you're nice at first, but it will catch up with you. And what that ultimately gets to is trustworthiness: can I trust this person to mean what they say? That when they offer me help, it's genuine help and not part of some hidden agenda? (On a tangent, I think this is part of the issue a lot of people have with "marketing.") Some of my dearest friends are the kind of people others think are jerks. They're honest. Sometimes brutally. And this rubs people the wrong way. But these friends don't lie to me, they're there when I need them, and I can trust them with anything. While admittedly, I can be a bit of a pushover at times and I try to be "nice" (whatever that means), I'm starting to realize that I'd much rather be trustworthy than nice. </p> @Nadine, Sonia – I think this stems from the inherent vagueness of the word “nice.” Does nice mean being polite? Considerate? Courteous? Does it mean being helpful? I don’t think the “nice guy” Sonia is talking about here is the person who’s nice to your face and then goes talk smack about you with their buddies at the bar. People may think you’re nice at first, but it will catch up with you. And what that ultimately gets to is trustworthiness: can I trust this person to mean what they say? That when they offer me help, it’s genuine help and not part of some hidden agenda? (On a tangent, I think this is part of the issue a lot of people have with “marketing.”) Some of my dearest friends are the kind of people others think are jerks. They’re honest. Sometimes brutally. And this rubs people the wrong way. But these friends don’t lie to me, they’re there when I need them, and I can trust them with anything. While admittedly, I can be a bit of a pushover at times and I try to be “nice” (whatever that means), I’m starting to realize that I’d much rather be trustworthy than nice.

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