“How to succeed books” and what not are just that…mumbo jumbo to make a few more bucks.

Here’s to blasting more cliches

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Wuttup!

You and I both know exactly who popularized this term and have discussed him before. This comment must fit in with the 10% you don’t like.

Just a couple of nights ago I was listening to one of his masterful presentations where he was telling the crowd at the beginning of the event to be very wary of dismissing ideas because they don’t pertain exactly to you and your situation.

His premise is that you can find any idiot on the street bring him in and they’ll be able to find a way to poke holes in an idea. Real genius lies in looking at a someone’s business idea, success principle, a belief and make it work for you.

Like you have with the “ballsy, brassy broad”.

This also helps you avoid the negative emotions that come with saying someone is “wrong.”

Being focused on “how something is wrong” rather than “how can I enhance, improve and adapt this to me” makes a world of difference in the state of mind you’ll be put in.

You and I both embrace the power of language. One way I see to re-frame brass balls would be to call it assertiveness.

For years I would never state my preferences. I went along with whatever I thought the person I was scared of upsetting would like. I waited for others to tell me what to do. I was dying inside.

I used my “just wanting to get along” wuss behavior to protect me from confrontation. What I found out and knew at my core was that I teach people how to treat me.

While I never wanted to be at the one extreme of being an “asshole” I always felt anger towards myself when I wouldn’t stand up for myself.

A resource that helped break out that cycle was a book called “When I say no, I feel guilty” by Manuel J. Smith.

He called what he did “Assertiveness Training.” It shows people how to overcome the manipulation some people in society try to work over on you (mechanics, parents, friends, bosses, spouses, etc.).

If you haven’t already, you should check it out. If you don’t need it’s guidance you’ll come away with solid advice to pass on to someone special in your life.

Talk soon,
Note Taking Nerd #2
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Ruthless Warrior micro-manager control freaks are people of any gender who let their Inner Critic (self-doubt and fear) guide their leadership.

True leaders are guided by their Inner Wizard (intuition and inspiration). Many of them are those low-key, quiet types that you would never guess made millions of dollars a year. They just easily and effortless go about creating their dreams using the power they have within. They seek to inspire rather than to control others.

Yes, they are committed, consistent, focused ‘doers’ who know that power, or empowerment, is the key to success not force – er, brass balls.

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LOL, and I’d rather not be called a broad!

Comfort in your own skin is absolutely going to take you farther than trying to be something you’re not. I agree.

Until later,

Kelly

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Interestingly, I like the idea of being a brassy, ballsy broad much more than I like the term “brass balls.” Language is a funny thing . . .

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@James, more and more I’m coming to think that having a definition of success that makes sense to us is the key to the whole thing. Know what really matters to you, and focus on that. The rest of it will fall into place.

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